One day, or day one? You decide.
The hardest part about deciding to do anything in your life is actually starting it. Whether it’s getting out of bed early in the morning, starting a new diet that you may keep telling yourself that you will “start tomorrow” but never do or trying something new for the very first time that you may not be good at, or may not like to do.
The decision to start is always the hardest. Think about the last time you were afraid or nervous to do something or dreaded going somewhere. Once you are actually trying it or doing it, it usually isn’t as bad as you thought it was going to be.
I decided to write this post about day ones because I feel like they are so many things we all go through every day that we are nervous about doing or don’t want to do because we are scared of the unknown. We only think about how hard it may be or how awful it will make us feel. I feel this way quite often, but I’ve learned how to overcome that feeling. It’s all a mindset.
My team’s first match last season was against Penn State. Penn State’s volleyball program has a well-known tradition of being one of the best teams in the country every year. So yes, having to play them my very first match, my freshman season, was a little intimidating -at first..
All I remember before the match was that I was so nervous; nervous to make a mistake, nervous to get scored on, nervous of what the fans and gym environment would be like, nervous of how my teammates and coaches were going to act if I didn’t play well… I had no idea what to expect. I was highly uncomfortable.
Once warm ups were over, lineups were read and I was on the court playing, it wasn’t nearly as bad as I thought it was going to be. Yes, my team may have still lost, and yes, they may have done some things better than my team, but I thought it was going to be much worse than what it actually was. If I made a mistake, it felt the same way as if I made a mistake in practice. A point is a point, whether you playing against the best or the worst team in the country.
Something I’ve learned from all of my experiences like this one is the better the mindset you have about things that may seem hard or you think you won’t be able to do, the earlier you will start to do those things you didn’t think you would be able to do. As a society, we work ourselves up focusing on how hard something might be, or get caught up thinking about all the things that could go wrong instead of just deciding to do it and being fearless and confident that it may just benefit you if you do it. The more often you can have a positive mindset about the things you may be scared, nervous or afraid of doing, the better you’re going to be at them. You will surprise yourself on how many things you are able to do if you just believe you can do them.
I encourage anyone who is debating on starting something they may be afraid to do or nervous about doing and just to do it. Don’t be afraid. Be confident and fearless. Go into every situation with an open mindset. Learn new things. Go into everything with a positive attitude and let whatever happen, happen.
I may not be able to go back and change the way my first college game went, but what I can do is prepare for a rematch.